Carolyn and her daughter Jesse find themselves in the middle of a pandemic in the midst of individuation. Arguments are, well, uncomfortable. After a multifaceted survey of Carolyn's experience with Jessie, the good, the bad, and the ugly, she feels better about herself. With her increased sense of security, Carolyn was ready to get back into the fight. I'm glad she got better. But I am a mother. Despite how transformative AAIT can be, mothers and daughters usually have a little more charged energy than they can work on in an hour.
Carolyn welcomed the suggestion to stay on a more balanced level with Jesse. Basic PEAT is a powerful little dynamo that supports emotional regulation and is a useful tool for teen mothers and young adults. Carolyn is steady in her BP practice and ready to dive a little deeper. I suggested that she answer two questions about Jessie each day for the next week. What am I fighting against Jesse? About her way of thinking? Action? Do you feel? Relative? And what else can you deny about Jessie? What's good about Jessie? about her way of thinking? Action? do you feel? Relative? What's good about Jessie? This kind of investigation can feel like a debridement of a wound. Or imagine what it feels like, the mere thought of it makes me cringe. The idea is to accept whatever comes out without inhibitions, evaluations, or judgments. Education requires a lot of patience and inner strength.
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